Dictionary
Abrasion, skin irritation. (Rubbing the skin with e.g. brushes. A glaze brush gives e.g. a small, tingling sensation like gentle needles without pricking).
Anal beads, It is a type of butt plug, but more and more often simply refers to the way of shaping anal toys as small balls, which is why they are found in both vibrators, anal wands or the like. Read more about anal beads here
Age play, play with age (mother/daughter, schoolgirl, uncle/nephew).
Anal Plug (also Butt Plug). A kind of dildo for the back hole. Is shaped so that it cannot easily slide out once it is in place. Available in different sizes for slow expansion of the anus.
Anal plugs Public, public – not visible “transport” of a butt plug in the anus. (Insertion under the clothes).
Anal sex, sex in the back hole. (anus)
Animal roles, playing animals (role playing, e.g. playing dog or horse)
Aromas, scents. (e.g. incense of a spicy – not pungent – aromatic nature can enhance the effect in a seance).
Asphyxiation, suffocation. (The word must NOT be taken literally in S/M relationships…! It is a matter of respiratory restriction that should ONLY be carried out by extremely experienced people and with the greatest caution).
Auctioned for charity, auctioning off. (At gatherings in an S/M context, it may happen that a slave is auctioned off for an evening).
Bastinado, bastonade. (Slap under the feet – caution is advised).
Bathroom use control. Peeing on command.
BDSM, Bondage Dominance SadoMasochism. (another word for S/M).
Beastiality, animal sex.
Beating soft, light spanking.
Beating Hard, hard spanking.
Being bitten, being bitten.
Being servised (sexually), being satisfied sexually.
Blindfold, blindfold.
Bondage, binding up the body with rope or other means.
Bondage Light, light bondage.
Bondage heavy, hard bondage.
Bondage multiday, long-term bondage (several days).
Bondage public, under clothing, bondage under clothing.
Boot worship, boot worship.
Branding, branding.
Breast/chest bondage, breast/chest bondage.
Breast whipping, beating on the chest.
Breath control, holding your breath (choking game – again in the sense of respiratory restriction, see Asphyxiation).
Cages (locked inside), cage – enclosed in.
Caning, cane (whip).
Catherisation fantasy, cathed-setting.
Cattleprod, electric rod for animals.
CBT Cock and Balls Torture
Cells/Closets, cells – cupboards (or narrow spaces).
Chains, chains.
Champer pot use, potty training.
Chastity belt, chastity belt.
Chauffeuring, chauffeur (driving around, being driven around).
Chores (domestic), housekeeping (household duties).
Clothespin body, clothespins – body.
Clothespin breast, clothespins – chest.
Clothespin genital, clothespins – genitals.
Cock worship, cock worship.
Collars, bdsm collars – general (to be put around the neck of sub/ms, available in many shapes and materials).
Collars – private, collars worn privately.
Collars – public, collars worn publicly.
Cross-dressing, to dress as the opposite sex.
Cuffs leather, leather cuffs.
Cuffs metal, e.g. handcuffs.
Diapers (wearing), diaper on.
Diapers (wetting), peeing with diaper on.
Diapers (soiling), defecating with diaper on.
Dom, another word for male dominant.
Domina/Dominatrix, another word for female dominant.
Double penetration, simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration.
D/s, Dominance and submissive.
Enema for cleansing, bowel cleansing with the aim of emptying.
Enema retention / punishment, holding in stool as punishment.
Enforced chastity, forced chastity. You can find chastity toys for men here
Examinations (physical), “doctor” examination.
Exercise (forced/required), forced exercise.
Exhibitionism (Friends), exhibition to friends.
Exhibitionism (strangers), exhibition to strangers.
Eye contact restrictions, prohibition of eye contact.
Fetish, when one has a desire for and is turned on by a certain thing, can be rubber, leather, fur, silk, varnish, feet, etc.
Fisting (anal), anal masturbation (the whole hand up).
Fisting vaginal, handjob in vagina (full hand up).
Following orders, following orders.
Foot worship, worship of feet (e.g. kissing them).
Forced bedwetting, peeing in bed.
Forced dressing, required dressing.
Forced eating, forced feeding.
Forced homosexuality, forced sex with one of one’s own sex.
Forced heterosexuality, forced sex with one of the opposite sex.
Forced masturbation, forced onanism or masturbation on others.
Forced nudity (Private), forced nudity (private).
Forced nudity (around others), forced nudity (with others).
Forced servitude, forced slave relationship.
Full head hoods. full masks/hoods.
Gags cloth, gags – fabric.
Gags inflatable, gags – inflatable.
Gags phallos, gags – dick-shaped.
Gags rubber, gags – rubber.
Gags tape, gagged with tape.
Gas mask, gas mask.
Genital sex, play with the genitals.
Given away to another Dom (temporary), given away to another S’er temporarily.
Given away to another Dom (permanent), given away to another S’er permanently.
Golden Shower, urine sex.
Hairbrush spanking, hit with a hairbrush.
Hair pulling, pull the hair.
Handjob giving, giving sexual stimulation with the hand.
Hand jobs receiving, receiving sexual stimulation with the hand.
Harems (serving with other subs), serving with other subs in, for example, a harem.
Harnessing (leather), leather “harness”.
Harnessing (rope), rope “harness”.
Having clothing chosen for me, Dominant’s decision on clothing.
Head (giving fellatio), oral stimulation on male genitals.
Head (giving cunnilingus), oral stimulation on female genitals.
High heal wearing, walking in high heels.
High heal worship, worshiping high heels.
Homage with tongue (No sex), worship with the tongue. (Without sex).
Hoods, hoods or masks.
Hot oils on genitals, massage oil on the genitals.
Hot waxing, playing with candles.
Housework (doing), domestic chores. (Cleaning etc.).
Human puppy dog, play dog.
Humiliation (private), humiliation – private.
Humiliation (public), humiliation – public.
Kneeling, kneeling.
Leather clothing, leather clothing.
Leather restraints, leather straps (for bondage).
Lectures for misbehavior, reprimand for bad behavior.
Licking (non sexual), licking – not sexual.
Lingerie (wearing), sexy clothing.
Manacles & Irons, laid in iron chains. (Like slaves in the old days).
ManiFest, a club for fetishists.
Masochist, a person who in an S/M relationship is subject to a Sadist. (The masochist turns on pain. Also called m’er).
Massage (giving), giving massage. (Not sexual).
Massage (receiving), receiving a massage. (Not sexual).
Master, another word for the male S.
Medical scenes, playing doctor/patient.
Mentor, a teacher. (Can help beginners with the game).
Mistress, another word for the female S.
Modeling for erotic photos, posing as a model for erotic photos.
Oral/anal play (rimming), anal oral sex.
Over the knee spanking, punishment lying over the knee.
Orgasm denial, sexual stimulation without permission to orgasm.
Orgasm control, permission to / control of orgasm.
Outdoor scenes, outdoor S/M sessions.
Outdoor sex, outdoor sex.
Pain (mild), pain – mild.
Pain (severe), pain – hard.
Pause word (Da.), a word that can be used in S/M play when the M needs a break, or the pace needs to be slowed down. Usually means that the play can continue after a break. (Good thing to use a word that does not normally occur in the play – for example Yellow).
Persona training (in scene), role-playing.
Personality modification (RL), personality change – not play.
Phone sex (serving Dom), phone sex to Master/Domina.
Piercing (temporary, playpiercing), temporary/”play” piercing.
Piercing (Permanent), permanent piercing.
Prostitution (public pretence), play whore/escort girl.
Pony slave, play horse.
Public exposure, public presentation.
Punishment scene, punishment session.
Pussy whipping, beating of female genitalia.
Pussy worship, worship of female genitalia.
Riding crops, riding whips.
Restrictive rules on behavior, restrictions on behavior.
Rubber/latex/lacquer clothing, gummi/latex/lacquer clothing.
Rope body harness, rope body harness.
Saran wrapping, wrapping in cling film (wita-wrap).
Sadist, a person who is the controlling link in an S/M relationship. (The sadist is turned on to give the masochist pain. Also called S’ers).
Sensory deprivation, sensory deprivation. (Sound, light, feel).
Serving, being at your disposal.
Serving as art, presenting/displaying as a work of art.
Serving as ashtray, functioning as an ashtray.
Serving as furniture, being used as furniture.
Serving as maid, being a maid.
Serving as toilet (urine), acting as a toilet. (Urine).
Serving as toilet (feces), acting as a toilet. (Feces).
Serving as waitress, serving as a waiter.
Serving orally (sexual), oral service.
Serving other doms (supervised), serving other S’ers. (Supervised).
Serving other doms (unsupervised), serving other S’ers. (Unsupervised).
Sexual deprivation (short term), sexual abstinence. (Short term).
Sexual deprivation (long term), sexual abstinence. (Long term).
Shaving bodyhair, shaving hair on the body.
Shaving headhair, shaving the head.
Skinny dipping, nude bathing.
Slave another word for a male m’er. (Some believe that a slave is more submissive than a m’er).
Sleep deprivation, deprivation of sleep. (Sleep deficit/lack).
Sleepsacks, sleeping bag. (Bondage).
Slutty clothing (private), “cheap” clothing in private.
Slutty clothing (public), “cheap” clothing in public.
Spandex clothing. (Skinny).
Spanking. (General term for spanking of various types).
Speculums (anal), anal dilation device. (For examining the anus or intestines).
Speculums (vaginal), vaginal dilation device. (For examining the genital opening or vagina).
Speech restrictions (when/what), speech restrictions – only on order.
Spreader bars, leg spreader.
Standing in corner, shame hook.
Stocks, gagging stick.
Stop word a word that can be used in S/M play, when it is to be held up. All play stops! (Good thing to use
words that do not normally occur in the game – for example Circus).
Stop sign, same as stop word. Used, for example, when it is not possible to communicate verbally. (For example, when a gag is used, a heavy ball or an object can be thrown so that a peculiar sound is heard).
Straight jacket, straitjacket.
Punishment can be many things: Whip, humiliation, candle wax, washing dishes, etc. Most often given when the master has been disobedient.
Strapon dildo (penetrated by), intercourse with a strap-on dildo.
Strapon dildo (sucking on), sucking on a strap-on dildo.
Strapon dildo (wearing), “clothed” strap-on dildo.
Strapping (full body beating), beating over the whole body with, for example, a rope or belt.
Sub, also a submissive. (Most often used for a person who is more interested in submission than in pain).
Suspension (horizontal), hanging – horizontal.
Suspension (inverted), hanging upside down.
Suspension (upright), hanging – vertical.
Supplying new partners for Dom, finding new partners for Master/Domina.
Swallowing semen, swallowing sperm.
Swallowing urine, drinking urine.
Swapping (with one other couple), swapping partners.
Swinging (Multiple couples), having sex with or in the same room as others.
Switch, a person who is both S’er and M’er.
Tattooing, tattooing.
Teasing, teasing. (Stopping before orgasm).
TENS Unit (electrical toy), an electrical shock device.
Thumbcuffs (metal), thumb “hand” iron.
Tickling, tickling.
Transvestite, transvestite. (One who likes to dress in the clothes of the opposite sex).
Triple penetration, triple penetration. (Simultaneous vaginal/anal/oral penetration).
Uniforms, uniforms (military, maid, nurse, etc.).
Vaginal dildo, dildo in vagina.
Verbal humiliation, verbal humiliation.
Vibrator on genitals, vibrator on genitals.
Video (watching others), watching others on video.
Violet Wand (electrical toy), blue light. (Electrical toy).
Voyeurism (watching D w/others), see Master/Domina with others.
Voyeurism (watching others), watching others.
Wearing symbolic jewelery, wearing symbolic jewelry.
Wooden paddles, wooden beating devices.
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